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Fruits for Offerings: What to Use and Avoid in Buddhist and Ancestral Prayers

Do you know which fruits are appropriate to offer to the Buddhas, Bodhisattvas, and your ancestors – and which ones should be avoided?

When I was young, praying to the gods and ancestors on important days was a significant event in my household. I vividly remember two whole sugar canes with roots, each tied with red threads and adorned with a yellow paper lantern. Alongside them stood a table filled with plates of fresh fruits and flowers for the Buddhas, and another with meats, biscuits, and cakes for our ancestors. A tall stack of joss paper was always prepared for burning, symbolically sent to our ancestors for use in the afterlife.

Fruits for Offerings What to Use and Avoid in Buddhist and Ancestral Prayers

Discovering Man Mo Temple in Sheung Wan

In my earlier post – Navigating the Hong Kong Island’s Most Iconic Attractions – I mentioned that we first discovered Man Mo Temple through the Hong Kong: Through the Looking Glass Miniature Exhibition 2025 at the Peak Tower. While there are several Man Mo Temples across Hong Kong, the one we visited is located in Sheung Wan on Hong Kong Island.

Discovering Man Mo Temple in Sheung Wan

Chinese Culture: Do you believe in spirit babies?

In Chinese culture, they are called 婴灵 (Yīng Líng). They are believed to be the souls of babies who were aborted, miscarried, stillborn, or who died shortly after birth. Often, they are not properly buried—especially in cases of abortion in hospitals, where remains may be disposed of as medical waste. In many cases, they are also not given a name or a memorial tablet.

According to Chinese beliefs, these souls are helpless and may linger in the human world, unable to be reborn. This is thought to be especially true for those who were aborted, as their circumstances may give rise to resentment or unrest. Some believe that such spirits may haunt their loved ones—particularly their biological mother—bringing misfortune or harm to the family.

Chinese Culture Spirit Baby

Take a Look at Traditional Chinese Funeral Mourning Clothing

Today, I want to take you back in time—to a tradition that is quietly, and rapidly, fading away: traditional Chinese funeral mourning clothing.

Take A Look At Chinese Funeral Mourning Clothing

Cremation: The Final Journey of Bone Picking

In my previous post, I shared the experience of exhuming my grandfather’s remains before they were sent for cremation. After the contractors carefully cleaned the bones, they were taken to the crematorium for the next stage of the journey. But what happens after cremation?

What I am sharing here is based solely on the experiences of my uncle and a close friend. These are Chinese funeral customs that some families continue to practise after cremation. They are shared here purely for reference, as traditions vary greatly between countries, cultures, and religions. Not every Chinese family follows the same rituals, and practices may differ depending on dialect group, beliefs, and personal preferences.

Cremation The Last Journey of Bone Picking

Exhuming Your Loved Ones: Family Views

This year Qing Ming Festival/Tomb Sweeping fell on the 4th April 2024. It saddens me that yet again, I have not been able to pay my respects to my dad and my grandparents on this festival. There are a couple of reasons for this: my family are in Singapore so it takes some preparation to plan a long haul trip from Britain. Also, it is not easy to fly over due to school term and travel costs.

Exhuming Your Loved Ones Family Views

Bongeunsa Buddhist Temple

Bongeunsa Buddhist temple was founded in 794 during the United Shilla Dynasty, with a 23-metre tall Maitreya Buddha statue. We came across this temple while visiting Starfield COEX mall.

Bongeunsa Buddhist Temple

Jogyesa Temple, Seoul, South Korea

Jogyesa Temple is the main temple of the Jogye Order and a symbol of Korean Buddhism, and it is located in the heart of Seoul. It was founded in 1910 and is a place to practice Buddhism as well as a centre for education, culture and social services. This is a very impressive and colourful temple. The Main Dharma Hall/Daeungjeon is open 24 hours a day to the public.

Jogyesa Temple, Seoul south korea One Pillar Gate Iljumun

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Hi, I’m Eileen — a mum of two teenagers, aged 18 and 16, and a passionate lifestyle blogger sharing snippets of family life, creativity, and culture since May 2012. My daughter lives with visual impairment, and our journey together has shaped much of the heart behind this blog.

What started as a small space to document family memories has grown into a vibrant corner of the internet where I share my love for cooking, crafting, DIY projects, Chinese culture, parenting, and honest product and YouTube reviews. Whether I’m creating festive crafts, exploring Chinese traditions, or trying out new recipes, I hope to inspire others through everyday moments from home.

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