Ah Ma, you are one of the strongest people I have ever known. Bringing up my uncles, aunties and my father was probably no easy task back in those days. In no small part to you, our extended family now has your great-grandchilden and surely more to come.
Your strength I can see whenever I drove you to get your insulin shots and then after when you always wanted to go to Ang Mo Kio Avenue 10 to visit your sisters and friends, you would vehemently refuse my help to assist you out of the car even though you had broken your hip a year or so prior to then. I will miss those days, definitely. Your strength and determination I will carry on with me till my end.
Like a candle in the wind
Never fading with the sunset
When the rain set in
I remember the day when all these events were set in motion. I was rushing off to school, and was in the kitchen. You suddenly fell, and as usual, you refused our help and got up with sheer determination and strength.
And I was told you had a stroke a few days later. We thought with our love and through rehabilitation, you would get better. But fate took a cruel turn and and a lesion metatasized into a tumour and things took a turn for the worse.
About three weeks ago, we were told you had three months more. But deep inside, we knew you fought the good fight, and I am sure you left peacefully this afternoon.
Yesterday, you were still able to respond to me when I told you I was your grandson from the States, and I told you to rest well and that everything was fine. But your laboured breaths told me that you were in deep pain, yet that tumour refused to let you voice it out. It was painful seeing you like this.
Ah Ma, rest in peace. Our family is doing fine and well.
Your son, my father, is the best father anyone could ask for. Thank you.
Your daughter-in-law, my mother, is the best mother anyone could ask for. Thank you.
My brother, your younger grandson, is doing very well in his National Service and has secured a place in NTU.
And myself, I’m studying for a degree in NTU, as you would have known. I may not be the best student or a Dean’s Lister, but your strength and determination has rubbed off onto me and made me succeed in many other endeavours in school, life or otherwise.
Thank you Ah Ma, for everything. For flying off to the States to take care of me when I was just born, for letting me hide in your room when my parents were mad at me for being naughty, for all the birds’ nest soup and everything that you have boiled with your own hands when you knew I was in BMT or overseas working, for the times we bonded when I drove you around, for the values of strength and determination, and for everything.
I will miss you.
Jason Chua / 24th March 2013